Here's something that occurred to me in the car on the way home from the board meeting tonight.
To the person who said kids need to be taught HOW to use their voice and choice: we have STOLEN their voice and choice from them, from elementary school on up. We took it away.
If someone stole your purse, would they say, "I'm sorry, you're not ready to get your purse back?" Would they say, "Here's your lipstick. Here's your wallet. Here's your car keys. You have to wait awhile for your checkbook, because you're not ready for it yet?"
No, you give the &%$# purse back.
It's not yours! Kids want it back! So just give it back!